So here’s where I’m at. I am someone who loves experiencing new adventures and developing myself, and I adore London for that reason. When I turned 40 (ahem, a few years ago) I drew up a list of 40 things I wanted to do – I think I developed what everyone now calls their ‘bucket list’. I worked my way through many different experiences which ranged from drinking champagne at the top of Tower 42, through to playing flamenco guitar, and learning how to ice skate (though not at the same time!)
I think we now live in an age where there are so many opportunities available to us bombarding us with messages via so many channels, that we become paralysed by choice. We are online and switched onto an overwhelming array of options for most of our waking life – just think about dating apps as an example.
As Barry Schwarz explains in his book ‘The Paradox of Choice – Why More is Less’, our obsession with choice, contributes to anxiety, dissatisfaction and regret.
So, I have decided to try a little experiment and see how things go when the choice is taken out of my hands…..
I decided to go a bit ‘old school’ on this. I have gathered together books, copies of numerous Time Out, sports and activity magazines and got to work with scissors and glue stick. I now have a boxed collection of experiences and opportunities ranging from art and culture, to sports, self improvement, day trips etc etc. It’s all under the heading ‘The Secret Life of Me’, inspired by the Walter Mitty film. Often given negative connotations, a ‘Walter Mitty’ character is seen as a fantasist or daydreamer - nothing wrong with that as long as you carry out your dreams.
Here’s the plan….
For the next few months, once a week, I am asking different friends to choose a colour and a number and I will then undertake that experience. I won’t shy away from things on the basis of weather (I’m Scottish, I have never let this hold me back!) and so only barring exceptional circumstances I will carry out whatever fate decides.
There is a bigger picture and business idea behind this, so I would be interested to see what people think of the concept. Maybe comment on my adventures, suggest things that you would like to see included (only criteria is that it isn’t life threatening!)
Bring on #thesecretlife ......I will post my first adventure next week!
Denise Yeats is an events director, communications consultant, endurance athlete and avid adventurer.